Cool thread. First of all let me say that as we get more mature our areas of knowing what we need and what we want seem to get more clear. But interestingly enough, I made a list of things that I wanted in my early teens and when I found Thinker he met the criteria. It's just that before we grow up we don't see the forest for the trees sometimes.
I wanted a deep man. Someone who can't stop thinking. Someone willing to give of themselves and share what they think about. But open enough to listen to my viewpoints and still think of me as intelligent even if they differed.
I also needed a good bad boy. Meaning, someone who would be loyal, but also have a wild imagination in bed.
This may sound shallow, but after being married to a 6'4" man (really bad marriage), I figured out that I was attracted to men about my height. (5'9") So when I was looking, I limited my search to guys who fit that.
There is so much more I could say, but it would turn this into a book. I believe this is sufficient.
BTW, Thinker and I met online, told each other we loved each other before we ever met, we fell in love with each others soul. Met ten days later, he asked me to marry him six days after that. We got married June 30, 2000. We are more in love today than we were yesterday. It just keeps getting better. He rocks my world baby!!!!
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What Qualities Do You Look For In A Man?!?!?!
by ladonna inlilacs started a fluffy thread on what "men look for in a woman".
i think it only fair that we ladies have the opportunity to have our say!!!!!.
and.....it's time i had a fluff post.
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What's the latest on "The Danni X-Files&qu...
by Bendrr inlooks like it's just disappeared.
no more posts from danni.
no more posts from mymy.. just to add my own little tidbit here, has anyone heard of a park hills (or parkhill) congregation?
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Dave,
You still have the one hundred million points plus some. No sense beating a dead horse. But we all reach the end of our rope sometimes and lash out!!
If I wasn't happily married myself, you certainly would be on my list of "wanna' get to know ya's". Ditto what Mommy said!!
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For Those Recently DA'd
by hillary_step ini feel quite sure that the harangued and harassed souls on this board who this week were being mercilessly hounded by the gb in their cowardly guise as appointed elders looking for da signatures on pieces of paper, take great comfort in the following statements in the december 15th 2001 wt.
these da, letters of course are a requirement from god and have nothing to do with the solidification of any pharisaical legal position.. 11. from a study of biblical and secular evidence, we can conclude that the pharisees thought highly of themselves as guardians of the public good and the national welfare.
they were not satisfied that gods law was fundamentally clear and easily understood.
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Mak,
I am so sorry that you had to experience that.
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What's the latest on "The Danni X-Files&qu...
by Bendrr inlooks like it's just disappeared.
no more posts from danni.
no more posts from mymy.. just to add my own little tidbit here, has anyone heard of a park hills (or parkhill) congregation?
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Thanks for sharing Dave. You get a 100 million points for being a man and openly apologizing.
I had reservations, but I wanted to believe the whole story. I guess one of my biggest faults is still being gullible. It helps to know that there are other good intelligent people out there who display gullibility too. (that probably isn't a word, but it worked for me, LOL)
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Tell Old School Friends That You've Left?
by Englishman insome of the uk national newspapers have been referring to the web-site at http://friendsreunited.co.uk/, where thousands and thousands of brits have been getting back in touch with old school friends.. just out of curiosity i decided to take a peek.
well, i was stunned.
many long-forgotten class-mates had my mind leaping back to the early 60s, particularly when they mentioned the weird nicknames that we had given to our teachers.. the french master, froggy fleuriot, mousy mclaughlan with his rats teeth, bummer burrell well, i will leave that one to your imagination.
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Very interesting subject Englishman. I didn't have but a small circle of friends because of being a JW. But I did contact my closest one. And kept her updated as of the last few years. She told me some very interesting things about myself as a teenager, that I really hadn't consciously recognized, that were directly related to being a Witness.
Next October, Thinker and I are planning to attend my twenty-fifth year reunion. I have never attended one. Looking forward to it. Should be interesting.
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I was scared of apostates.....
by terafera inthe only experience i've had with 'apostates' was when i was 7 years old.
i was visiting family across the states and we went to a district assembly.
i remember a group of people outside with signs and billboards.
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Betweenworlds,
Oh yes, Mr. Coffee. Do you know what happened to him? I married a Bethelite, so I had quite a few encounters with Mr. Coffee.
Well apparently quite a few years ago, I was still married to the Bethelite at the time, so we had connections and this was confirmed.
Mr. Coffee was hanging out near some Bethel buildings and got run over by a Bethel truck. The Society had to pay for his hospitalization and surgery. Talk about irony and Karmic debt. LOL
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We're not wrong, right?.............
by flower insuddenly i am hit with this overwhelming feeling that we are wrong and that there are logical explanations for all of the things that dont make sense.
aaaah.
this is awful.
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Dear Flower,
So many wonderful sensible things written. Just skimmed, but a wealth of good thoughts here.
Just two small points from me, that I hope will help.
One, it is OK to feel how you feel, no one can take that away from you. We all have a process we have to go through.
Two, IMO, leaving the org. is like death or divorce. You must go through all the steps. Guilt, anger doubt, ect. It is not only OK, but healthy.
Just keep thinking good thoughts. And like so many others advised, just plain thinking for yourself.
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HOLIDAYs
by QUEENIE inthe next apostate holiday is valentines day---i want to wish all a very happy one..((((((((h u g s )))))))) queenie aka linda lou kersey -- i love holidays and definately being apostate and being addicted to my webtv ;):):):):):):):):):)
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Right back at you Linda!! I already have some gifts for Thinker. Just can't help myself.
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A little story for you guys, I'm a little hormonal
by closer2fine inwe are sitting at lunch when my friend casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of "starting a family".
"we're taking a survey," she says, half-joking.
"do you think i should have a baby?
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What a beautifully put piece of writing. I can only imagine that it is true!! Please bear with me if some of you already know. Because I was in an abusive marriage for almost seventeen years, I gave up my most important dream. Having children with the love of my life. Since part of the equation was missing, I couldn't bring myself to do it.
Since I am with Thinker I have a step-daughter. She will be fourteen in March. The bane of my life is that her mother has custodial care of her and we only have visitation. The up side is that even though we only have her briefly, I can see my influence in her life. It saddens me to see what her real and IMO, unfit mother does to a perfectly good child. But my hope is that being able to see healthy normal familial love will help her in the long run.
Congratulations Closer.
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Personals
by jayhawk1 ini thought a discussion about personal ads would be fun.
i have dated many women by many different methods.
except i have never looked for women at a bar.
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I recommend it highly. Thinker and I got married June of 2000. We are both happier than we have ever been.
But as with any relationship building, you have to be totally honest. Careful of course and trust that the other person is the same.
I dated a lot of men before Thinker. Some were nice, some were losers. But it was a good learning experience.
Also very important. You absolutely must know yourself and look for someone who fulfills your wants and needs. The tricky part is finding someone whoes wants and needs you fulfill.
LDH,
Caught it right away!
TW